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Showing posts with label Leaving a Legacy. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Leaving a Legacy. Show all posts

Sunday, September 22, 2024

Don’t Live for a Legacy

Live and enjoy the Now, knowing it is a prophetic expression of a future not your own.

My oldest brother died on July 1st 2024.  Yesterday our family was helping my brother’s widow clean out their Quonset on the acreage.  Signs of my brother’s existence are fading away.  It’s sad and inevitable.  Memories and some mementos remain, but they fade too.  We are all but dust in the wind on the historic march of humanity.  We each occupy our space in time, and then move on.  Reflecting on how quickly our time comes and goes, at first pass it sounds like life is therefore meaningless. 

Au contraire…I think this gives us meaning.

Given the realities of the brief appearance we make in humanity's historical drama, how we focus on the Now and in the space we occupy in the webs of relationships we possess, gives great purpose to our lives.  How can you make this space beautiful and enjoyable Now?  Yes, the way you live will have generational impact.  Yes, it will echo forward into the lives, habits, perspectives and values that you leave as your ‘legacy’.  And to live only for a ‘legacy’ is a miss.  It can cause you to overshoot into the future and miss the meaning and joy of the Now.

Live your life in the Now.  Live it with joy.  Live it conscientiously (which for me means to live according to the Way of Christ) so that the benefit and blessing is experienced not only Now, but in the future lives and memories of the people who inhabit your world on this journey.

Live and enjoy the Now, knowing it is a prophetic expression of a future not your own.

Harv

 

Monday, January 21, 2019

The Dangerous Game of Leaving a Legacy

Leadership writing and culture is laced with the pursuit of "legacy".

I have taught it, I have lived pursuing it, and I have paid for it.

For me personally, this topic is very fresh because soon I will be concluding a ministry I founded.  During this ministry-building journey I burned out in my pursuit to 'press on' and make it a legacy-making endeavor.  I blogged about this here.

Of course let's be real -  there are people we know and recognize who leave legacies that ripple across history.  I think of Paul the apostle.  His actions, the records of his pursuits & his personal writings left impact that continues to shape the world.  Amazing.  But lets be real again.  For the vast majority of us there will be no record of our contributions and no universally acknowledged legacy.  We move about in simple faithfulness, our contributions known perhaps to a small circle, and to God most certainly.

How do you feel about being mostly unknown to the world?

The answer to that question is found in shifting to a new perspective on 'legacy'.  Stop pursuing efforts so that you will be remembered.  Think about this...it is through the largely unrecorded and unnoticed faithfulness of Gods' people that the world is changed and the Kingdom of God expands. There was only one Paul.  He didn't build the Church we see today.  God did, through billions of other followers of Jesus all through history.  They were mostly obscure and unknown , but in the hands of the Master, their 'legacy' is a global Kingdom that now permeates the planet.

I now feel this battle between legacy and obscurity more acutely now that I am about to conclude my ministry.  In the past it was a hope of mine (no, it was a driver) to "leave a legacy".  Admirable in some sense, but I have learned it is a dangerous pursuit.
Living to leave a "legacy" can be a pseudo-spiritual cover for the dangerous game of self ambition. Living for the "well done" shifts perspective and posture to that of a servant.
An important question to ask for all who follow Jesus is: Who determines legacy?  If it is you, then you better work your ass off and sacrifice everything in the pursuit of that goal.  However, if you truly believe that the Kingdom of God is actually Gods' and is therefore built according to His plans, then there is only One who determines the legacy.

Don't work to leave a legacy.  The brutal truth is that 50 years from now the world and even your family who are still alive won't remember much about you.  But God will leave a legacy through your faithfulness to whatever you put your hand to as His servant.

There is a sense of liberation that comes when you stop striving to leave a legacy.  That enables you to do something, and to do it very well.

Work for the 'well done'.

Harv Matchullis

Tuesday, April 17, 2012

Leading Beyond the Bottom Line


Every for-profit or non-profit leader has a bottom line.  It’s why you were hired. What is your bottom line? 
Social change – shareholder value – product innovation – spiritual transformation – profit...

Before you read on, name your organizations' bottom line here:_________

I suggest you add a bottom-line measure to your leadership:  the personal development of the people you lead.  In the long run it isn’t about what you leave behind for your organization ~ it’s about who you leave behind. 

Although our world places great value on leaders who accomplish great things, it’s the leaders who ‘accomplish’ inspiration in the lives of others who endure in our collective memories AND have left a legacy of change in thinking and behaviour that continues to serve the world.

Look at these pictures (or insert the image of a leader you admire) and describe for yourself the legacies of each leader:

  • What was distinctive in their life? 
  • How did they inspire you?
  • To what extent has their leadership endured beyond their organizational ‘bottom line’?
  

Now, here’s a counter-intuitive point:  the clearest path to influencing the character and personal development of others is to pay attention to your own growth!  Developing others isn’t so much about being an inspiring motivator, providing leadership coaches, or implementing a team-development plan (as helpful as they are).  It’s really based in YOU, in the “quality of you” as their leader.  You best lead others by consciously leading yourself.

A leaders’ self-awareness is the basic building block of effective leadership.  

Leaders who lead themselves acknowledge that there are typical stages and phases of development through which all people travel.  Throughout life we will cycle through these phases.  At times they are painful and uncomfortable.  Effective leaders don’t avoid these stages, but rather normalize them as natural building blocks of their inner life and character.  It’s from that inner life that they lead in the most profound ways ‘beyond the bottom line’.

Here’s my broad description of the phases of:  
Questioning/Clearing/Crucible/Clarity

Questioning

At various points throughout life a sense of ‘dis-ease’ with our context settles over us.  I have often observed this in the lives of leaders when I hear them express: “Is this all”?  After a period of years in their role, after the initial building phases of projects, visions or teams and after the job has settled into some kind of pattern, a dis-ease with life and leadership enters their thinking.

This does not mean something is wrong.  It does mean something in you is stirring.  Something is calling you to self-examination and possibly to re-calibration of your place in life, in relationships, in leadership.  This is a good and healthy place – so don’t shake it off by ramping up your work life or hastily exiting your role.

It’s just good to sit in the place of questioning for a while.

Clearing

Our life/heart/soul longs for something deeper to connect with than the typical bottom-line of a leadership role.  We are inherently connected to something more than money, honour, status or achievement.  It’s a sense of destiny or legacy – the deep knowledge that we are on this earth for a purpose and that when our role is done and our life is finished, we have meant something to someone in this world.  I believe it’s the God who created you that put that stirring there.  Whether you believe that or simply that we as humans are meant to contribute something for the benefit of this world, we find our greatest meaning & contribution outside of ourselves.

Yet through our lives we encounter things that get in the way of living a legacy-producing life.  The fog of deadlines, demands & distractions enshroud our life and we are in desperate need of emerging into a clearing.  That is why “The Questioning” is such a critical phase!  It starts a process where you hear the deepest longing of your soul speak back to you.

“The Clearing” is a place (and a process) where you come face to face with yourself.  In this place the most powerful thing you can do is to give a name(s) to the deficits you are discerning:
-in your personal character
-around your unfulfilled aspirations
-about what you lack to be a ‘legacy’ leader 

I urge you to a ruthless honesty about yourself.  It’s not only critical for you, but for the world!   WHY? Our for-profit and non profit leadership positions need character-leaders who see beyond the hard facts of most bottom-lines.  They see impact on people, on the environment, on communities, on culture, on well-being.  This is ‘another way’ of leadership needed by our world.  This way of leadership isn’t acquired through an MBA program.  It comes through honest reflection on the very nature of who you are as a leader. 

Crucible

Chinese symbols for 'Crisis'
Articulating your deficits and aspirations is one thing.  Owning them to the point of making a choice to act is something else.  Crucible creates personal crisis.  Here we come face to face with the limitations of our current self and realize that without change, we will never become who we aspire to be.  The choice is stark:  remain in status quo, coast for the rest of your life and surely wither on the vine, OR get off of your chair and make some commitments to move your life forward.


Ambivalence at this stage is natural, because change is hard.  We become accustomed to our current state of being and so will ask ourselves: “Do I really want to go through the effort of becoming a different/better person”?

This push-pull between our knowledge of a need for change and our disinterest in the energy required to change creates an internal tempest.  What you choose in that storm of self-analysis forms your character development going forward.

Clarity

“Clarity” is defined as ‘the quality of being clearly expressed’.  It comes only to those who act on (express) their choice for change.  Notice I said it comes to those who act.  Clarity is profound when it first comes to your awareness.  But that’s not true clarity.  It’s just awareness.  True clarity is when your choice is ‘expressed’ not only in words, but action.  You need commitment and discipline to act until what you have chosen becomes a regular part of your life and/or thinking.

You have been there before.  Remember those meetings when the team had ‘clarity’ on a direction?  Everyone left the meeting inspired & hopeful.  But there was no commitment to regular and sustained action.  The ‘clarity’ you thought you had died because of lack of expression beyond the words.

It’s simple, but curiously get’s missed too often:   
MAKE A PLAN + EXECUTE A PLAN = ACCOMPLISH REAL CHANGE.

In summary:

...Let the questions come & sit with them for a while.
...When face to face with yourself, be honest about what you are and what you aspire to yet become.
...As hard as it may be, own who you are, and the changes you need to make.
...Express your aspirations by making a plan and executing it.

There is a greater metric than the economic or social ‘bottom-line’.  You run your business or non-profit by it’s’ bottom line, but don’t run your life that way.

Your life will be judged.  What will it say to the world?


Harv Matchullis

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