Faking Faith

It took a personal burn out and a long reflective walk on the Camino to clarify for me how much I had led a leadership life that faked faith.  I said I believed in Gods’ power.  I acted as though it was all mine.

The ministry work ethic and leadership drive of North American Christian leadership culture places a great deal of importance on effort, skills, high-quality materials and events, performance evaluations and KRA’s.  What is ironic (and tragic) is that we as leaders will publicly use a rhetoric of faith in God’s leading and power, but then our execution demonstrates something very different.  It’s a vocational hazard of leaders to inspire with words but lack aligned execution.  I find it especially poignant when faith leaders speak of ‘trusting God’ and ‘prayer first’, but then spend tremendous leadership, organizational and financial energy to organize their efforts as though God’s involvement didn’t matter.

Many of us act out of a functional atheism concerning the sovereignty of God.  However the truth is, only He can produce faith.  Only He can draw people to Himself.  Only He can restore the world to Jesus.   

He is the Master Builder.  I am the worker. How does that relational dynamic show up in your daily efforts?  How much better to lead, live & love in the world and space you occupy with a calm trust in the sovereignty of God to do what only He can do.  

Maybe I am saying slow down and ‘faith up” because I just don’t want to work so hard anymore.

Maybe I am saying all this because after 35+ years of ministry I am tired.

Maybe it’s because my burnout stole something from me.

OR...

Maybe I am finally discovering what it means when Jesus said His yoke is easy & light.

When was the last time you felt that your yoke of ministry was ‘easy and light’?  Was Jesus lying to you about this or is something else off?  Perhaps it’s time for you to step away and re-examine whether you are faking faith in your leadership activity.

Your Path Makes You

Many leaders live out of an illusion.

It’s an illusion that we can be the unconquerable masters of our fate and captains of our soul. This illusion has a deep root in the Western psyche, perhaps best captured in the 19th century poem Invictus by William Henley:

Out of the night that covers me,

Black as the Pit from pole to pole,

I thank whatever gods may be

For my unconquerable soul.



In the fell clutch of circumstance

I have not winced nor cried aloud.

Under the bludgeonings of chance

My head is bloody, but unbowed.



Beyond this place of wrath and tears

Looms but the Horror of the shade,

And yet the menace of the years

Finds, and shall find, me unafraid.



It matters not how strait the gate,

How charged with punishments the scroll,

I am the master of my fate:

I am the captain of my soul.

This ‘master of my fate’ life perspective is expressed in the notion of the ‘self-made man/woman’. It is regularly reinforced through the North American child-rearing mantra of: “you can be anything you want to be” and then echoed in adulthood via leadership gurus’ seminars and books. Just Google “you can be anything you want to be quotes” and you would think nothing can ever get in the way of our goals except our own level of belief in ourselves!

Reality check: No one is a self-made. No one finishes their life path the way they initially envisioned.

Truth check: You don’t make your path. Your path makes you.

This phrase "you don't make your path; your path makes you" came to me with particular power after a week of walking multiple paths along the Camino del Norte in August 2017. My experience in the previous 7 years was the crumbling of many of the best-laid plans for my own life and surprisingly, the successful accomplishment of some completely unplanned endeavours. These multiple events and circumstances created a zigzag pattern of experiences. I was reeling, wondering what to make of it all. I took a sabbatical for 3 months to try make sense of things, and this phrase popped up:    You don’t make your path. Your path makes you.

This isn't advocating giving up on dreaming and planning. It is about dealing with emerging reality and your ability to shift direction on the road to becoming resilient as a leader and person. Lets face it, plans get made, hopes are set high and then 'life' happens. Circumstances both within and outside our control determine the path we actually walk. In those moments, some things are demanded of you:

1. What CHOICE will you make? As I see it, there are 3 options. Accept, Refuse or Run. You have to determine in your circumstance what is called for. However, no matter your choice your path has already shifted to some degree.

2. What CHARACTER will you demonstrate? Your choice will call out your character. More important than the path you take is who you become as a result of your choice. Unplanned changes have a way of unearthing what is buried deep inside of us. A leaders' effectiveness derives more from character than skill, so pay close attention to what emerges!  Resilient leaders are not shaped by success so much as they are by challenge.

3. Will you accept the new CONDITIONS? This is the time for realism. Your circumstance and the new resulting path is what it is, so deal with it. The alternative is to keep living in your head and in a reality that does not exist! Acceptance doesn’t mean you must like the new path, but it does mean you receive it as a part of your new life. Only after acceptance can you begin to walk the new path with purpose and intention.

With great thought and planning I have designed many paths for my personal and leadership life, believing that I would become someone and accomplish something as I pursued the path. In all cases, I have experienced redirection and on occasion outright failure to arrive at my original destination. However, I am now the leader and person that I am not because I achieved my original plans, but because of who I have become in the process. I also believe that I am in my current position of leadership because of the character, interests and skills that have been shaped by my circumstances, because:

My path made me


Harv

“We can make our plans, but the LORD determines our steps.” Proverbs 16:9

A Leaders' Life of Insignificance

Day 6 - At Laida beach.  Thousands on thousands of people.  A throng.  Some thongs.  Some without any thong on.

Seriously, the huge numbers of people and my sense of alone-ness (enhanced by the fact that I could not speak Spanish) got me thinking:  “In the crowd of humanity, who am I really?”  In the context of 7.5 billion people on this planet, what is significant about me?  This got me thinking about the importance I ascribe to my work and my self.

One more thing has me thinking about this now as I write.  This week marks the second funeral in the last two weeks of people I have known well.  It also brought tragic news of a relative who suffered a massive brain hemorrhage and may not see consciousness or his family ever again.  The Bible says it’s better to attend a funeral than a party, because it causes you to think about how you are living your life. (Ecclesiastes 7:2). So, I am thinking about life and invite you to consider your own.

 

On that beach in Spain while walking the Camino, and now today surrounded by the loss of friends, relatives and acquaintances, this is a reflection on living a life of insignificance.

Like many leaders, I have always had a sense of importance and significance to my life.  This motivated and drove my leadership aspirations and future thinking.  The leadership seminar and book industry contributed by feeding this theme into my psyche and understanding of leadership. As a result, I have always looked for something better, greater and farther for which to strive.  Embedded in my thinking was always that I’d be part of a ‘breakthrough’, a significant team or an innovative thing.  On reflection, I have fulfilled some of those aspirations.  However as I looked at that crowd on the beach in Laida Spain, a reality hit me full force.   Like the waves pounding the surf, humans like me come and go throughout history.   Life rolls along.  Wave after wave.   A new swell of humanity hits the beach every generation.  Ha - in 30 years from now I likely won’t even be top of mind to my own kids!  Few people are remembered.  Few leave a legacy that humanity will store in its collective memory, or benefit from materially.

Leaders live to leave legacies, to impact others, to ‘make a mark’.  We have been enculturated into this characterization of leadership.  “You can do anything…You can be a change-maker in the world” and many other catch phrases populate leadership seminars and even parental guidance.  However, there is an insidious nature to this because it can – as it did in my case – inflate significance, diminish the present and drive a striving for future results that robs our impact on the here and now.

I challenge you as a leader to shift from a mentality of legacy to service.  Legacy too often is a selfish thing.  It’s about what you can leave behind; how you will be remembered.  Service is about showing up in the today to say – “How can I be of help?”

Finally, to all legacy-builders and world-changers: 

• Go to a funeral to remind yourself what is most important.  Discern what is most remembered from a life lived.
• Legacy isn’t so much what you leave behind in terms of professional or social impact.  A rude truth is someone else will eclipse your work down the road.  True legacy is the character DNA you introduce to your family and others who live and work around you.  That DNA will exist in the background, profoundly influential in the lives of those who remain after you have gone. 
• Calculate the cost of the ‘big thing’ you have committed to pursuing with your life.  In the grand scheme of things, is it worth the price you are currently paying?  How could you pursue this differently?
• We have dreams to pursue but only today to do.  Don’t live in your future to the extent that you lose today, because today is all you have.

On Day 14 at the Albergue Meurelo, before I set out on my last day of walking the Camino, I reflected again on this theme and wrote:

“I am significant to God and of insignificance to man.  In the grand scheme of the world, I am a drop in the ocean.  That does not define me as an insignificant person, but it does pull me back from grandiose notions about my role in planetary impact.  Most of us live local lives.  That has nothing to do with value or significance in God’s eyes, because he knows our name & calls it out among the billions of people on this planet.”

Harv