Walking Broken With the Broken

There’s a pervasive patronizing, we-they, holier than thou, superiority complex that we ALL succumb to in relation to other people.  There is always someone worse off than we are, more inferior to us, or in some way 'less' than we are. If you choose to say this does not characterize you, then you are clearly blind and patently dishonest.

Canada’s recent coming-to-grips with its residential school past is a gross historical example of this characteristic in play.  However, that’s too big for many of us to relate to.  Let’s get closer to home.  Street level.

Around you are:

• people from another culture, perhaps a culture that brings up very negative emotions or beliefs for you 
• addicts – people who perhaps in your mind just can’t get it together 
• homeless & poor people who somehow lost their grip on life skills and the disciplines to ‘make it’ 
• those with a mental illness, who are not in touch with (your) reality 
• people trapped in or celebrating a lifestyle you fundamentally think is wrong 
• someone who hates your religion/faith or who just deeply questions everything

In some way, they are broken.  But so are you!  And this latter fact is the one most lost on us in relation to the rest of society. It affects our ability to identify, love and have compassion.

Somehow, we as Christians have come to believe that we have the solution to the world.  Of course it is true that surrender to and following the person of Jesus is the Solution.  He came to give us abundant and meaningful living both now and for eternity.  But in believing in that solution, we Christians often and unfortunately accompany it with a perverse and inaccurate sense that we are now whole.  Better than others.  That subtle lie implies the other person is not whole and therefore somehow is less than us.  It results in a patronizing attitude toward their 'needs'.  Worse, it breeds a judgemental spirit.

What if we were to take the more theologically accurate and very human perspective that we ourselves are broken and walk with the other in their brokenness?  We are saved by grace and not by anything we have done.  Daily we (well, maybe just me) struggle with elements of our brokenness. So in a sense we are both beggars looking for food.  Both sojourners looking for a destination.  Both imperfect people seeking wholeness.  Both humbly walking together knowing we need each other and are in need of the great Other.

 What might this do for us – the Church?

• It would release us from a BA (‘believers arrogance")
• It would make us more patient and accepting of the brokenness that is all around us 
•  It would make us more human 
• It would help us see that our walking with the broken is actually our calling 
• It would save us from classifying brokenness.  We are ALL broken and in need of healing and wholeness. (Have you ever noticed that the church has ‘white collar’ sins that don’t get the same focus and judgement as other sins??)

I am no saint in this.  It’s a fresh lesson I am learning as I walk with someone affected by addictions.  They are broken.  Other addicts are broken.  It has been so heartbreaking to watch.  BUT the process (AA) has brought me face to face with my own brokenness and need for the Saviours' grace and power to change.  One key to the recovery of these addicts is not judgement of their condition or rescuing them with the good intentions of money or promises or enabling actions, but the acceptance of others in the program who also admitted they were broken.  That created camaraderie, a fellowship, a common humanity.  They all know they struggle, and it created a context in which restoration could happen. 

Restoration and salvation occurs in a context of loving acceptance.   

 You will NEVER argue, browbeat or rationalize someone into faith in Jesus.  You certainly won’t by placing yourself above them.  But it just might happen if you come alongside, as a fellow broken human to demonstrate the hope you have in Jesus and the frailty you also possess as a human.

In the context of teaching a young leader to avoid the senselessness and the damage excessive wordiness and theological condescension will inflict, the apostle Paul (2 Timothy 2) went on to say to Timothy that he should:

• Stop trying to quarrel your way to helping someone believe 
• Be kind to everyone
• Be patient with difficult people 
• Teach gently & effectively because “perhaps” God will change their hearts

Did you get that last bullet?  “Perhaps”.  You see it isn’t up to us to change someone.  It’s up to God Himself.  Even then, there is no guarantee.  “Perhaps” God will change them.  Until that happens:

Walk as the broken with the broken

Demonstrate and describe the Saviour

Honour the  free choice of the person

Continue the walk no matter their choice..."Perhaps"

Surrender yourself and them to the will and power of God.

Walk as the broken with the broken